Dare to Love Yourself and Others
Born for love---QUIZ
“The person who risks nothing --- does nothing, has nothing, is nothing, and becomes nothing. He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot learn and feel and change and grow and love and live.” ~~Leo Buscaglia
I thought I was really living spiritually by not arguing or getting upset. Surely good things should be happening for me since I am not a bad person. Eventually, I realized that I was merely existing. I was not venturing out of my safe box, not taking risks.
I was only creating more of the “getting by” stuff that I had been generating.
I had no special goals, desires, expectations in life. So, none of those were forth coming. Nothing special, just more of the same.
I had to actually get excited about something, for my life to change for the better. I had to think about something happy, joyful, vibrant and exciting, to change the old, tired energy field I had created.
To generate those good feelings, they have to come from a place of love.
Not romantic love, but the kind of love that warms your heart. Like when you see a sweet baby or fuzzy puppy romping in the yard. The kind of love that comes when you share something with someone.
We tend to not step forward in our lives and participate in living because there is a lingering fear. What if I do something wrong? What if I say something stupid? What if I offend someone? What if they don’t like me?
Fear is only the absence of love. Love provides correct energy to transform any fear into positive action. Love gives you strength.
This is the beginning of knowing yourself. It opens your heart to life, so you are not so scared to live it. Love is the only true emotion. It is the thing that creates in our existence.
QUIZ: Born for Love
Asking yourself questions and answering them honestly is a good path to self-knowledge. In keeping with this idea, I'd like to propose a few end-of-the-day questions for each of us...
Is anyone a little happier because I came along today?
Did I leave any concrete evidence of my kindness, any sign of my love?
Did I try to think of someone I know in a more positive light?
Did I help someone to feel joy, to laugh, or at least, to smile?
Have I gone through the day without fretting over what I don't have but
celebrating the things I do have?
Have I stopped wanting others to be what I expect them to be?
Have I forgiven myself for not being perfect?
Have I learned something new about life, living or love?
What do you think of yourself? What are some of the words that come to your mind?
Years ago, Charles and I were traveling to participate in a few Body-Mind-Spirit Expos. We reached Hays, Kansas, on our way to Colorado and stopped for the night. Charles was outside the motel room working on the truck, and I was trying to find a weather station on television.
I came across a documentary about Bea Richards. She was an actress and activist. (She played the part of Sydney Poitier’s mother in the movie, “Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner,” and the matriarch in the movie, “Beloved,” among others.) I always admired the work she did, and I watched the program. At one point in the interview, she was looking at the woman asking her questions. All of a sudden, she stopped, turned directly to the camera and said, “The world wants to hear what you have to say.”
Bea Richards was looking directly at me when she said it. I felt her directing the energy to me. Now, understand, Bea Richards had passed away years before I saw that documentary. But her energy spanned all time and space. It felt very personal. And I believed every word.
This is when I embarked on lecturing, teaching workshops, and writing. I had something to say. And Ms. Richards encouraged me to step forward, even though I was painfully shy. I was stepping forward into an unknown, but the Love I had for sharing information gave me strength.
“The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.” ~~Martin Luther King, Jr.
Do you have a dream? Is there something you must do, but are too afraid?
Don’t stand idly by waiting for something to happen. Step forward and make something happen.... even if it is wrong, or a bad move. Do not assume you cannot.
Know that you can in your own, unique way... move the world. Take the Risk!
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